. >> i begged you to get some therapy. >> can you still do her voice? >> well, yes. >> you're dorothy and i'm gayle and we're meeting for the first time. what should we do together? >> well, because i'm really a man, i thought we could go to a gym or to a spa, you know, and i'll get naked. >> i don't love you anymore. >> cramer versus cramer took hoffman to a bad place, the breakup of a family just as his own family was ending in divorce. >> sit's not ought biographical. you shouldn't be doing it unless you can't bring the narcissist in yourself or the mean person or bastard in yourself, don't go near it. >> he nearly turned down the role but instead helped rewrite the script to reflect his own experience. >> i will always be your mommy and i will always love you. i just won't be your mommy in the house, but i'll be your mommy at the heart. >> and we discovered something, which was, i think, the spine of the film and that is when marriages break up, each party wants the love to just snap like a twig and it doesn't. the love stays. you no longer can inha